There is a time and place when just fitting into society is the ideal spot to be. If you go mainstream, you just might find it easier to blend in and hide, while in plain sight. The vast majority of people do that without even knowing it. They like it there, living vicariously through others. Their whole life can come and go without leaving that bubble. That’s great if you can sustain a bubble. Have you ever blown the perfect bubble? Even perfection only lasts an instant before evaporating into thin air. So is a bubble where you want to be?
Going along with the flow doesn’t mean it’s easy. If life were only that simple. Life is an expertly crafted dance, worthy of a royal command performance. It is a choreographers dream assignment. It has all the richness of sorrow, joy, excitement, suspense, and triumph. None of which are in perfect measure.
When you go with the crowd, you learn societies expectations. How to deal with other people. These things become essential life lessons. We are born with a clean slate. With each life experience we learn to weave a tapestry of who we are and who we want to be. This doesn’t stop when we finish school, or reach a certain age, where people think you should have some common sense. No one can go it entirely alone, so learning how to fit in feels good. That is until you feel squeezed into a box with little air to breathe.
Sometimes we are put into a box by others, it’s not always something we have control of when it is done by someone else. When it happens, the only way out as I see it, is to prove that you don’t belong there. If on the other hand, you have somehow put yourself into a box, well that is a far more serious matter entirely.
If you are in a box of your own making, remind yourself that you constructed the box. Because you are the builder, you have the blueprints of its construction. With the blueprints, you know exactly where every nail is. Get your trusty hammer and start removing the nails. The box will collapse, and you can emerge from the confines that you put yourself into.
Remember, even the people we may not particularly like, can teach us what we don’t want to become. In their own way they are their own role models. So I am grateful for all those people that made my life challenging so far. From the bully in kindergarten, to the cruel individual that put acid in my drink as a teenager. The co workers that, let’s just say “ did not play nice “ They all left their mark. It is all those experiences, the good and the bad, that give us texture and colour as humans.
Have these bad things made me jaded? Heck NO !!! As being mainstream clearly isn’t easy, a person could not be faulted for thinking it isn’t for the faint of heart. So let me ask you this, if living is going to be a challenge worthy of any great warrior, how much harder could it be, to just find your own path, walk tall and embrace the adventure.
We have all experienced the grid lock of a rush hour in any city. Personally I have never understood the term “rush hour”, as you certainly can’t be in a rush to go anywhere, while standing still, now can you? Ask yourself, is that what you want, gridlock with the masses? Now take a moment to envision yourself as who you really are. You know, that person inside that few people rarely see. That diamond in the pile of rock dust. Isn’t that really the you that wants to come out and play?
Sure, your own path might make you vulnerable. There is the very real possibility of failure at any point. Let me tell you this, you are guaranteed to fail at some point. We all do. It’s the growth you achieve from the failure, that turns that failure into it’s own success. From that success you create a new layer of wisdom. It’s wisdom that protects us from continually repeating the mistakes. With wisdom all things are possible.
Have you ever looked up to someone and thought to yourself, wow, they have it all figured out? Even the wise ones among us only have some stuff worked out well. The cool thing about choosing the road less traveled is that it is far less congested. It gives you a better opportunity to take in what is around us. To experience the joy of being. To learn, develop and grow.
If you are going to climb on board, you might want to pack safety gear. You see there is no safety net. Not physically anyway. You are your own safety net, and your true friends and family are coming along for moral support.
Did you know that even going with the flow, doesn’t give you a safety net? If the thought of blazing your own trail puts you into an instant state of panic, then you are just the right person for the adventure. If you weren’t scared then something would be wrong.
Here is another question, do you want to look back on your life knowing that you played it safe, or do you want to have experienced the pitfalls and triumphs of packing as much as you can into the life you have been blessed to have? If either way is going to be hard, why not choose adventure over safety?
Are you sitting there reading this going, what the heck, where would I even start?
No one way is perfect. For me, each morning without fail, I do a personal reset. I continue on with the positives in my life, but any lingering negatives from the day before is put into check. Sometimes if you are going through a difficult time personally, or are in a time of transition, you can’t always just forget what is going on. It would be nice if we could. If I could do that, I would be a very wise person.
The reason a total reset isn’t always possible, is likely because the trouble continues to be ongoing . I call these events “crap tsunami”. Face it, we can’t ignore what is staring us in the face. When that happens, I settle for just not adding to the debris. That to me, is what would be worthy of a self high five. As the crap tsunami begins to subside, then I try to increase the amount of negativity that I let go of each day. Then eventually the negativity is minimal.
When you aren’t weighed down with excess negatives, you can then turn your attention to the positives and build on them. Yes, be grateful, but for the good as well as the bad. When you are on the road less traveled, even if it only putting your baby toe on the surface to check it out, it doesn’t matter, you are on the road my friend.
At first you might think holy smoke, I can’t believe I am doing it. Think of that as just the initial launch to move you forward. Strap yourself in for the ride. For we have achieved lift off. The universe is ours.