Self Help

Self help, in 2008 was an 11 billion dollar industry in Canada. That was 10 years ago, so I can only imagine what the cost is today. Most of that money is spent on quick fixes that just don’t work.
The clue is in the title. We need to priorities the SELF in self help. We can’t just show up. It is after all, an investment in yourself to look after you. You need to put something in though, in order to get something out. We all get, that help is great, on those occasions where we need it. Other than that, we figure we have things all figured out, am I right? Why then, can we go into any bookstore in the country and find how-to books on absolutely everything!!!! From how to kick ass in business, to finding your inner zen. 
We all have things we can work on character wise, and this author is no exception. If we think though, that we can be “fixed” without working on it, then we are fooling ourselves. We can’t spend $20 or even $50 or more on a book, spend a few hours reading, and think a life time of potentially poor choices and its ramifications suddenly vanishes. 
A vast majority of the situations we find ourselves in, we have played, at the very least, a small part in creating. We just don’t want to admit it do we? We can’t always blame someone else. We need to say, this is where I find myself, at this moment. What do I need to do to move forward. 
It isn’t a game that we can just coast along, get other people to do the work we don’t want to do, then turn around and blame them when something else goes wrong. Starting right now, take a moment, to picture what it is that you truly want. They might be things, that aren’t things at all. 
Like a recipe, to achieve the perfect outcome, you need proper ingredients. So when you have a clear picture of what you want, break it down, to discover, what ingredients you need to have for the success to be realized. This is SELF HELP, setting the ground work, to achieve your dreams. 
It seems to me, that we are just as proficient at talking ourselves out of things we don’t want to do, or don’t want to put the effort into, as we are proficient at talking ourselves into things that we really wanted anyway. Retail therapy perhaps, or changing would like to have a house keeper, into, I need one. That’s quick justification for what you wanted all along. Perhaps we just think we deserve it.
it is my experience, throughout life, that if people see that you are making a true effort, they tend to help if they can. Your success then becomes their success. We might get by with a little help from my friend…. as the song goes. Then you help someone else, with something you can help with. I believe the current term is paying it forward. 
Put self into self help
Quit playing the blame game, it sucks your energy, 
Be kind to yourself and others 
Offer a helping hand and mean it. 
Be honest with yourself 
Give back 
Embrace the life you have, not the one you wish you had 
Set realistic goals You might just find the help you needed was in you all long, rather than between the pages of a current self help best seller.