We all do it, for whatever reason, lack of time, or, perhaps to be honest, lack of interest. We procrastinate, when we would rather be doing anything other than the task at hand. We can call it anything we want. When we want to do something, it is truly amazing how our schedules get changed, or we work harder to save for a holiday just because we want to.
Is it even possible, to somehow change our outlook so we are more likely to do the stuff we are putting off?. I believe so. It becomes more apparent to me every day, that our mind has immense power. It’s a matter of making it work for us, rather than against us, that is crucial. How, you might ask does someone do that?
With New Years just around the corner, let’s use that as an example. Some people are considering their resolutions. That annual march toward almost guaranteed failure. If it is to give something up, smoking,’for example. It is my observation, that people smoke more, because the end is coming, and they want to enjoy their last puffs. It’s the same with food. I’ll diet starting tomorrow, or next week. So I will make the most of it until then, and stuff my face with millions of calories. OK, make that thousands, but you get the point. Would I have done that if I hadn’t put it out there in the universe that the diet was to begin on a certain date? I don’t think so.
My biggest successes begin quietly. I don’t announce to the world that I am giving up something. I find, when you do that, it just makes people watch. Not, unlike the people that can’t stop themselves from staring at an accident, some quietly cheer us on, while others are watching, waiting for the crash of failure.
I decide what my goal is, then explore what I need to ensure success. Sometimes, it is as simple as observing those around me, people that even just appear to have what I want. I will let you in on a secret, it doesn’t even matter, if they actually have what I think they have. It could be all smoke and mirrors for example that they appear successful or not. It doesn’t matter, simply because the smoke and mirrors are their reality not mine.
At the earliest conception of a plan to regain my health, instead of seeing someone healthy and wishing it could be me, i saw someone healthy, and decided that , that was going to BE me. When I tried and failed on my own. I didn’t just say poor me, I went back to the drawing board, decided I needed help, got an amazing person involved and haven’t looked back. There are times, that you have to call in a professional, and above all, stand back, and let them do the job you are paying them for. If your plumbing goes, you call a plumber, the job gets done. It isn’t a sign of weakness to look for help, it is in fact, a sign of strength. Face it, you have to decide you need help, before you ever explore getting the help.
My successes only get louder, once I have achieved them. Then, it becomes time to let the world know what I have been up to. New Years resolutions are voluntary. I personally don’t do them. If there is something I want to change in me, I just quietly work away at it, and see how long it takes anyone to notice.
Avoid the self destructive traps. If for example, you, workout, then promptly reward yourself with a tasty muffin or glass of wine, you could actually find yourself gaining weight because the reward has more calories than you burned off.
Perhaps resolutions are counter productive. It becomes a willpower tug of-war. I will fight the demon and triumph. Really? Everything doesn’t need to be a battle. Yet, we put our armour on and go to battle anyway. Then are disappointed when we fail.
Instead, I suggest , deciding the direction you want to go in. Formulate a plan, and allow yourself to picture your success. Make your goal attainable, and quietly work away at it. It is not a race. Get the help you need along the way, but above all be prepared to help yourself. Anything worth achieving is worth working for.