A Matter Of Approval

When we are young we want parental approval. As a teenager or young adult the focus shifts to peer acceptance. In adulthood it likely is bosses or spouses that we turn to,in order to fill the required daily dose of approval. So from an early age, we want someone to approve of what we are doing or who we are.

When we don’t get the approval from the person we want the approval from, it seems to me,that for some reason beyond my comprehension that persons approval seems to become the only one that matters.

I have seen people contort in ways previously unimaginable. So much so that it would make a skilled acrobat envious, in order to obtain the coveted endorsement that they are seeking. Sadly it is my observation, that the harder they try the more unlikely they are to get what they long for. When rejected, the blow to the persons self worth seems absolute.

Subconsciously we give away power to people that we are rarely aware of. If 10 people genuinely tell you that you are great, why does the one person that does not agree have us believing that their opinion is the only one that matters? I’ll tell you why. It is because we let them.

Seeking outward approval is a hollow exercise. At the end of the day it is the inner approval that will give you the peace and acceptance you crave.
Our actions need to have a pure intent from within in order for our personal approval to be genuine. We can’t just do anything we want as long as we tell ourselves it’s OK. There would be chaos in the streets if we all paid attention to only our own wishes.

We probably all know people that have transformed themselves to almost an unrecognizable state to fit in. It rarely works because the end product does not correspond with our core selves.

If you find yourself quietly turning down the noise of everyone else’s opinions you just might find that you are a happier more powerful you .Don’t change a thing until such time as you and only you want to make the change.

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